True; and Jesus Christ, 2-5 times a day is too much even for me lol
We’re working out the options, but the problem is I need to know my partner is genuinely enthusiastic, which is hard when the difference in libido is so big.
But there are attempts on both sides to bridge the gap. I appreciate her efforts and communication.
Also, hoping your partner is doing alright now!
True!
Though I’m very worried about the fact that such a switch often comes as a slippery slope. It sure takes a LOT of communication and reassurance to get going, and if something isn’t done just right, it can collapse the relationship altogether, rotting mutual trust. The anxiety about this alone may actually ruin any sort of practical realization on my end.
Besides, I’m not sure I can find all that many people so sexy in the first place. There are things I want to try which are not possible with her, like, the simplest of things, trying an actual dick, but I’d be hard pressed to find someone I’d be horny enough for. With all my drive, I’m quite sexually loyal, it seems.
That’s a useful bit of advice indeed! Thank you
While not having sex regularly may indeed be a sort of neglect for the powerful love language, forcing yourself to have it rings of abuse.
Besides, I simply don’t enjoy it if my partner is not enthusiastic - and I know when she isn’t as she tried this before.
This is pretty much why I look into options on how to improve things on either side.
As per monogamy - I feel that to most this is not a matter of limitation per se, but something about feeling special, being the only person allowed to something sacred. And from that perspective, I love the fact she’s monogamous and respect that she expects the same for me. While she may not be the most sexually active partner on the planet, she still enjoys knowing it’s her who gets the prize.
Just because she doesn’t need it or think about it doesn’t mean she doesn’t enjoy it when it happens
True! She does enjoy actual sex, but often finds it hard to initiate, to get to that edge after which primal takes over.
We do have a lot of communication, and I make sure to share love without always preying on her lol. Though it gets complicated sometimes - regardless of her drive.
I also focus on her pleasure and reduce her anxieties about the receptive role as she often looked at sex as a sort of chore to please the man.
Actually, I am the male partner, but it’s a kind consideration in your part :)
I’m just trying to look at it from neutral grounds, and understand that as much as her drive is very slow to me, it is equally overwhelming to her, and we shared our concerns on the matter.
Some good porn community lists. BTW, share if you know any!
Yep, and it’s amazing!
Pro tip: it goes well with facesitting, and damn riding that cute face of hers is heaven
What you describe about yourself is sissyboy fetish.
Being trans is not tied to sexual fantasies and is an everyday identity.
Don’t use porn as an indicator, it often skews the reality
It’s often good! giggle
Only monogamous relationship for me, yeah.
I did try other options, friends with benefits and stuff, but nothing actually compares to me, not even close, with the partner who intimately knows me, cares about me on all levels, and knows of all the things that turn me on.
Besides, sex in relationships is a continuation of a deeper feeling, a way to express love and a special kind of gentleness. Yeah, I’d say sex is very romantic to me.
But nothing bad with other options if you’re into it! Monogamous folks are often portrayed as boring puritans who tell people what to do, so I’ll stress that - you do you, but my drive works this way. And boy can monogamous sex get kinky…
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No, as I said, I do not welcome hookups and would not appreciate if she’d go randomly fucking with everyone before dating me.
I said already I don’t have insecurity about past partners or retroactive jealousy. It’s just gross to me.
Yes, that’s what I did.
I explained my issue to her in a gentle way and offered the condoms I bought myself. She immediately accepted it, to which I’m thankful.
Also, right on spot, I do have diagnosed OCD.
I see, interesting!
Also, I wish you to recover as much as possible
That’s my point - those are not “unexpected hook-ups” (I never feel comfortable with those), those are events in a relationship they could absolutely prepare for, and something that normally comes with a greater level of intimacy.
Changing a bed is unreasonably costly, materially and financially, besides, bed is not necessarily associated with sex.
Getting new condoms is a matter of spending beer money at a nearest pharmacy.
Bigger guy with reasonably small moobs - enjoy having her grab them, but hate nipple play.
Heavily doubling down on everything you say here!
I am big, too, and that DOES NOT MEAN I AM NOT GENTLE!
Those who know me close, of course, know me as a cuddly and kind and gentle person; girlfriend knows more about it, including sexual stuff, and loves me for that, to which I am very grateful.
Interesting you mentioned your wife drove to see you - I just recently came back from seeing my girl, around 700 miles away, and finally, October to November, she will be able to move in with me. You just added some bright hopes :)
Glad you sorted it out in some way, even if your path included things you’re not proud of!