So, I’m in a long-term relationship with my loving partner, and everything is good, except for the matters of sex. Suffice it to say, one partner (male) has a very overwhelming sexual drive, while the other (female) needs sex like once a month (and it has always been so throughout life). Partners are monogamous and do not explore options of having a third party.
Can any good advice be derived for such cases? Is there something that can be done to improve things on each side? I would love to hear your advice.
Meh, there’s a lot of ways to dress it up but it boils down to:
Have sex more or the partner with the higher sex drive will feel neglected. This doesn’t necessarily mean PIV sex, but sexuality is a part of being human and isn’t something that anyone should have to sacrifice.
It’s kind of an unavoidable reality and people will beat around the bush about it, but sex or lack thereof can make a bad relationship or break a good one.
No matter how you dress it up, one partner isn’t having their needs met.
Tangential and purely personal experience, but the sex stopping in a relationship has always been a surefire indicator of underlying problems, in my experience.
It’s also just an inherit problem with monogamy I feel “You can’t have sex with anyone else ever”
“Ok can we have sex”
“No”
While not having sex regularly may indeed be a sort of neglect for the powerful love language, forcing yourself to have it rings of abuse.
Besides, I simply don’t enjoy it if my partner is not enthusiastic - and I know when she isn’t as she tried this before.
This is pretty much why I look into options on how to improve things on either side.
As per monogamy - I feel that to most this is not a matter of limitation per se, but something about feeling special, being the only person allowed to something sacred. And from that perspective, I love the fact she’s monogamous and respect that she expects the same for me. While she may not be the most sexually active partner on the planet, she still enjoys knowing it’s her who gets the prize.