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Cake day: July 16th, 2023

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  • I’m an immigrant in Germany and began learning German at eighteen. I’m C2 and getting my masters in German language instruction, but I still feel so exhausted after interacting in German for long periods of time. I’m also generally an introvert, so it’s draining in multiple ways. I know it’s just that I need more experience and there’s no real helping it, but it really kills my mood sometimes. I work as a salesperson/barista at a bakery, teach classes, and interact with all my friends in German, but my husband speaks perfect English and it’s such a relief to be able to talk to him in English at home.










  • I’ve got good fine motor control, which means that I can sew, knit, roll a joint, braid hair, make a pastry, seal a dumpling, fold origami, draw, sculpt, paint nails, pick a lock, and most other fine dexterity tasks, excluding musical instruments.

    This sounds like bragging, but I didn’t do anything to earn the ability to do this, I literally just do it and it works. I’m not proud of it (though I’m occasionally proud of the things I can craft) and I don’t think anyone else is unskilled because it doesn’t work when they do it.


  • This is the relevant section from the wiki:

    Many jurisdictions have enacted regulations relating to the disposal of human bodies. Although it may be entirely legal to bury a deceased family member, the law may restrict the locations in which this activity is allowed, in some cases expressly limiting burials to property controlled by specific, licensed institutions. Furthermore, in many places, failure to properly dispose of a body is a crime. In some places, it is also a crime to fail to report a death, and to fail to report the disposal of the body.[37]

    From your link:

    Having a grave too close to a water source is either not wise or not legal. It also may not be permitted to have a gravesite within a certain distance of a building or your property line. These are called setbacks, and setback laws are different for each state. Often, setback rules make it all but impossible to put a grave in someone’s urban or suburban property without breaking the law.

    I’d be interested in how widespread the legality is practically, because (reasonably) everything I looked at said to check local laws, but I can understand why that’s not included exhaustively. My family tried to in a rural area of a non rural state where the sources say it’s allowed, but the setbacks made it practically impossible- watershed areas are larger than you would expect, even without visible bodies of water nearby.


  • nothing illegal about just getting dropped in a hole as-is on private property most places

    That’s not true for good reason- people who don’t know what they’re doing could contaminate groundwater/runoff very easily.

    It shouldn’t be as expensive as it is, and I’d support dropping unembalmed corpses without certain diseases (an asymptomatic or undiagnosed prion disease could be incredibly dangerous) in a hole, as long as they are adequately buried. That would require an autopsy and either significant refrigeration costs or a rushed job without embalming though.