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Cake day: August 30th, 2025

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  • A lot of people talking about their own feelings on the subject, but my opinion is that humans are the result of their upbringing. Your parents, your friends, the media you consume, the schools you go to, the strangers you interact with, the religion you are told defines you, all impact your understanding of the world and how you interact with other people. What makes someone monogamous vs someone who isn’t? It could be any and all of those things. Hell, it could be an article in a magazine that someone read when they were 12 years old. We are the results of our influences, and even more than that.





  • Definitely that for me. I can force my brain to remember that the apple in question is red, but then my brain will question WHAT EXACTLY IS RED? AND IF RED WHICH RED??? AND SHOULDN’T THERE BE SOME GREEN IN THERE TOO? HOW MUCH? OH WAIT NOW YOUR APPLE IS GREEN. NO, THAT’S NOT WHAT YOU WANTED. APPLES HATE US! and now all of a sudden I’m focusing on a rotten apple core and my ADHD is working out what it would take to turn that apple core into a sapling and how long will it take to make a fruiting apple tree from those seeds? And now my boss is asking me what tf have I accomplished since 8am this morning

    …and I can tell you the one thing I DIDN’T do this morning was draw an apple because how do you get 10,000 shades of color from red and black pencils?





  • If you’re trying to fix things, tell your spouse that you appreciate the sentiment (assuming you even do) and talk it out. My guess is that you instead got disputatious and made it clear that you actually didn’t appreciate the effort, that what you have already is More Than Good Enough, Thank You, which put your spouse on their heels and hurt their feelings.

    Of course this is just a guess on my part, but that’s the vibe I got. As another said, you definitely sound like you’re on the spectrum and need to keep that in mind when dealing with other people. You may not see the world in the same way as they do.