Your algorithms must be very different than mine, because I have only seen this type of shit being uttered by bored women who are either stay at home or into the spiritual bs like basing their life decisions on zodiac signs or taking every personality test online and taking their results way too seriously. Have also seen it uttered by manipulative new age men who want puss, but mostly its something that goes on in those very stereotypical woman spaces where you’re either a sex and the city-woman or a new age hippie/influencer type.

It’s a very specific segment of the female population and weirdly enough, they can be anything from super left wing to super right wing to completely apolitical. The vibe is the same across the board, though, and it always gives me the ick when I run into people who have this über performative personality.

I had zodiacs entirely ruined for me because of these types of women. Used to think it was a bit stupid fun to read horoscopes and shit, until I ran into a few people irl who talked like this: “that’s so Leo of me. I can only talk to X because they are a Virgo and my sun is setting over my moon blah blah blah” and they were 100% serious. Those people will also walk around talking about being empaths without a hint of humor, and everytime I hear someone talk like that I remove myself from their orbit immediately.

Apparently the extensions aren’t reliable at all. I saw a video at one point where a guy went over why you cannot trust the extensions and how the numbers are pure fiction, but I forget the exact reasons. I think one example was that the same video would have vastly differnet numbers of down votes depending on the person with the extension. Something something confirmation bias.

For me, it doesn’t really matter. I still down vote when I dislike a video. They may not count my vote at all, but I still do it out of stubbornness.

I don’t think we can just wipe that turd off onto people with disorders. Most people have it in them to act like animals if they get the right encouragement.

There is also a difference between observing real fascism and talking about that, and then calling everything you don’t like or want to silence, fascist. There’s a very big difference and people should be more careful with words like that and only use them when it is applicable and not use it as a catch all slur. Then it loses its meaning. People on Lemmy use fascism for everything they don’t like. The irony is that some of their own behaviors on this platform has some of the same characteristics as fascism does. Not a one to one, but there certainly isn’t much space for differing opinions and there seem to be a wish for a world where only one set of values is permitted and it should be implemented through violence. That is how a lot of people think on here and I find it amusing that they point the finger at everybody else and any attempt at nuance is met with accusations of fence-sitting. People are very very special on this platform, as they are on every other social media platform.

But let’s not blame people with disorders for a behavior that is a universal trait of human stupidity.

The funny thing is that I myself am a leftist. Somewhere between a social Democrat and a socialist when it comes to my political views. I just absolutely detest the extremism I have noticed spreading on the left like a cancer for well over a decade now. I haven’t been able to talk about the kinds of politics I think are important and that matter for years because everything is distraction politics now. Everything is hysterical identity politics that harms minorities and marginalized people way more than it helps them or it is, as you also mentioned, all about violent revolution.

When Charlie Kirk died something in me kinda snapped. Not that I hadn’t already had my own fair share of snappenings after trump entered office a second time and I fucked off as many American owned platforms as possible. It was the reaction to Kirk’s assassination that absolutely floored me. Both in terms of how I reacted myself and how I saw everyone else reacting.

I felt nothing. I barely knew who he was because I don’t care much for people like him and don’t bother watching them. However, I used to be someone who would feel sorrow for anyone who gets murdered for their political beliefs as it goes against my core values. I was disgusted with many people on the left when the trump assassination attempt happened and people were cheering about that family father who got murdered. I was very vocal about how this is no way to have a democracy in a supposed modern, developed world.

And not even a year later I hear about Kirk and I felt nothing. I was absolutely apathetic after the 2025 Trump has given the world and how he has helps stoke the flames of hatred between people and countries too. For ever one good thing he tries to do and wants Nobel prizes for, he’s done at least five terrible deeds that has caused people and countries to fear for the future of the world. He is mirthful elephant in a china shop.

But I felt nothing for Kirk and it scared me how stripped of my compassion I have become in a year of constant strife between everybody.

The way other people reacted utterly disgusted me. Both Kirk’s supporters and the trump administration behaved like the caricatures they are, comparing him to Jesus or the apostle, they seemed to not really make their minds up on that one, and trump happily using a man’s death to further his disgusting, divisive politics.

But the extreme left? Mate. Lemmy truly showed its face during that episode. They were every bit the disgusting monsters they screech about every single day that everybody else is. I took a break from Lemmy after that. Checked in from time to time in the instances I liked, but it took me until recently, within the past week or two, to start using it again more regularly.

My boyfriend thinks that when America gets a new president and that president is hopefully someone who seeks to unite people instead of dividing them, things will calm down. I hope he is right. I certainly don’t see a platform like Lemmy naturally evolve into a positive place with productive conversations before the western world’s finds a way to become the adults in the room again. Because right now I feel like the world is being run by temperamental toddlers and that scares me.

In that sense, Lemmy is nothing more than a reflection of the infected wound that is western society today. People project all their frustration onto people who thinks differently than them, believe differnet things than them, love and look a different way from them, all when they feel trapped and helpless in their own situation. It is easier to blame and Witch hunt those whom you find fault with than to be forgiving of each other’s differences and hold on to that humanity that comes so easy during good times and is so hard to hold on to during the hard ones.

I recently read a really good memoir from a man who grew up in the brutal farmer society in Jutland, Denmark in the 1920s, 30s and 40s when the Germans came and took our country.

He puts it so brilliantly in his book, several times how hard it is to remain kind to your neighbor when your own situation is so dire. First growing up in the 20s in the aftermath of a terrible war, then the 30s where no one had any money and then the 40s with war and restrictions on everything. It shapes you. In his case it shaped a person who was forgiving of other people’s flaws. He understood hardship and had lived it always. He eas grateful for the small things and while he may not have fully appreciated it at the time in his youth when he was working as a farm boy on differnet farms where he worked himself into a hungry, tired beast that cared only for food and sleep, it later made a man who had an enormous empathy for other human beings. Even those whose opinions he didn’t care for.

I sometimes fear that many of us have grown up in too much comfort. We have been challenged too little. Then we meet a bit of hardship and we become animals immediately. It has been disheartening to see how easily people have taken to anti semitism in this day and age. We have no excuses for falling for it because we already know what it can lead to.

We do live in scary times, but what disgusts me so much is that we should know better, we have relatively the most comfort that humankind has ever had and still, we are such animalistic monsters the minute things gets a bit hard. He mentions this in his book, the old man from Jutland. How he worked on a farm in his 20s in the 40s, where all the animals were being treated really well. Too well. They didn’t get any discipline and that made them quick anger and violence when they didn’t get their way. One instance of some farm animals who thought he came to them with food and when he didn’t, they attacked him.

I feel like we are like those farm animals in a sense. We haven’t seen enough hardship so we make life hard for one another instead and think we are doing something important by screaming at one another on a stupid internet forum. I find it so embarrassingly tone deaf and out of touch when people tell me that any of what goes on, on Lemmy is important and productive political discussion. The same kinds of people who think that stabbing people’s car tires in the name of Just Stop Oil does a fucking thing to change the world. They don’t want to go the boring way, where you go talk to politicians, try to convince them with your words and with research and time spent on building a case for what you want to see changed. That is totally not the cool sexy way to do activism. No no. Let’s do vandalism and harass people and act like fools instead. That will make change. Let’s sit on our forums and call people fascist. That will make things better.

That is how I see things.

No.

There is no perfect social media experience. Politics can and will and have always been a part of people interacting online, but it used to be more balanced where people would also talk about their interests and geek out about things that makes them, you know, happy.

Lemmy has plenty of potential to have that balance, but politics bleeds into everything and when I say politics I mean the most angry, vitriolic and hateful version of it. There are ways to talk about politics where it is fruitful, interesting and enlightening. On Lemmy it is none of those things. It is just angry people projecting their misery onto everyone and everything around them. It doesn’t get dumber than that and I want no part of it, so I block it.

Who said I’m ignoring politics? And btw using Lemmy to “stay informed” on politics is as goofy as using reddit, youtube or Facebook to “stay informed”. Social medias and politics is nothing but echo chambers where people leave their brains at home and go to scream at each other and be as unproductive as possible. It is brainrot.

I listen ti the news, talk to people in my real life and check official news sites when I want to get updated on the news. I don’t go to gossip sites like this where mentally ill people scream about fascism in every thread.

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Sure, blocking people and instances isn’t exactly self censorship, but it was something I started doing after experiencing multiple instances of people attacking me for words I used, assuming I was a fascist for using a word they apparently got triggered by and completely ignoring and flat out lying about the context of me using the word in my comment. One time it was the word woke. Apparently you can’t write that in any comment in any context without being a fascist to these idiots.

It was a very disappointing experience to be attacked like that by people who would twist the observable truth to make shit up about you when this was supposed to be a place where people could talk freely. So I started avoiding topics and using certain words while on here even after blocking instances and people. Mostly because I just don’t feel like having to deal with psychotic retards who think reality and context doesn’t matter and that anything to the right of total communist domination is fascism. . . Which is a bit ironic, ngl.

But sure, if people want to focus on words like sex or kill as a bar for Lemmy not having self censorship, they can enjoy that delusion. My personal experience is that having any opinion that isn’t pro violent revolution and using words deemed no-no words by the brainrotted masses, makes you free game to harass and attack and lie about.

I have, to put it very frankly, never truly met as unhinged and unpleasant people online as I have here. The closest I have gotten in the past was when I was observing the self implosion of the online alt right in 2018. They might be able to compete with Lemmy leftists as being some of the most unhinged and divorced from reality nutcases I have met online. And when you find yourself surrounded by people like that, you will self censor or stay entirely silent until you have removed yourself fully from their orbit.

Honestly, my experience is that the Linux crowd are some of the most wholesome people on here, but otherwise I mostly agree with you. I was very quickly disillusioned about this platform being any better than all the social media shit I had just left behind. There are still good people and instances here and I hold on to the ones I have found, but the rest of my Lemmy experience has been very disappointing.

Are you meaning to tell me that I can only do ONE home invasion a day??? That is totally unreasonable.

Can permit crab clarify what constitutes a bad thing?

I self censor a ton on here, are you kidding me? I have blocked every news and politics related instance I could find and still, the instances that are left are filled with political brain rot from the most unhinged extremist black and white thinking leftists online.

The only reason I’m still here is because I have a small handful of instances that I actually enjoy frequenting, where people are trying to make a healthy environment to speak with one another and share thoughts and ideas that aren’t always about politics.

The only true positive about Lemmy is that it isn’t a corporate entity with carefully curated ads, algorithms and tons of bots. However, Lemmy is proof that the corporate model has trained us all so well over the past decade to think that being online is all about getting mad at politics and each other so we are basically perpetuating the bullshit trends they started like the brain dead lemmings we are.

To me Lemmy is no different than any other social media platform that thrives on hate, yet somehow thinks its unique and/or enlightened. It’s a shame because there a lot of potential here to make something that unites people instead of continuing the echo chamber model that the big corporations have worked hard to put us all in because it earns them money to keep us angry with one another.

But whatever. All these “big thinkers” on here thinks their time is best spend screaming at each other and calling everyone they disagree with a fascist so who cares about trying to build a better online community? I’ll keep blocking shit until I only have the productive instances left.

Thank you for the advise! For me it’s not so much that I need them here and now. It’s more a matter of lessening the waste that comes with packages when we buy something new for the home. I don’t have a lot of these little packets, but I save them in case I need them and to dimish my carbon footprint by a smidge. It’s not much, but I still think it counts for something.

I started saving these little silica packs. I think they might be useful for storage of books and paper. Maybe other things too. You never know when you need something to help keep moisture away from items. 🤷‍♀️

Aye, I have playlists for all kinds of concentration related things. If I’m writing, I put on ambient music that fits with the tone and doesn’t have singers who sing with words.

If I’m just drawing, I can listen to literally any genre of music, but it had to be appropriate for the vibe I’m trying to catch.

These playlists are only for longer projects with a bigger investment.

If it’s shorter projects or projects at work that only takes me a few days or weeks to complete I tend to put on videos of people talking. The topics and formats don’t really matter. I put on whatever interests me at the moment.

Currently I’m in a phase where I just need some dumb shit while I’m working and I’m therefore deep in some youtube drama that most people don’t care about, but I find to be very very entertaining, even though it’s pretty fucked up.

I don’t think he minds. He’s a pretty chill dude, luckily.

Mate, if you want me to start crying, just ask me about my thoughts on Lord of the Rings or Astrid Lindgren.

I can go from completely normal to ugly crying in a span of seconds once these two topics are brought up.

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Psh, amateurs. I come from a family of criers. We all hate that we get moved super easily, but we fucking cry when anything emotional happens. Men and women. We are all equal here.

Sad movie? We cry. Beautiful music? We cry. A nice sunset? Yep. We cry. So fucking annoying, but what can you do?

I genuinely thought there was something wrong with my boyfriend when I discovered that he isn’t a crier and can sit through a sad movie without showing emotion. I’m a bit jealous, ngl.